About once a week, I receive an email like this (note that any identifying details have been removed):
And about once a week, I'm the one to gently explain that the star name they bought is not officially recognized; that the star they want to look at in someone else's honor is not actually named in that person's honor.
I don't want to be that person anymore.
Billions and billions of stars
The great thing about our galaxy, the Milky Way, is that it is home to about 300 billion stars. All of those stars mean a nearly endless supply of merchandise for companies to sell.
There are several companies offering to sell you a star name, and at many different prices.
If you read the fine print of many other companies they usually say that astronomers do not officially recognize the name of the star you just purchased.
But that's not the only issue I've encountered.
Remember, there are many companies selling star names. In the span of one month, two entirely unrelated people contacted us to look at a star that they purchased. It was the same star. These two people had each paid to name the same star.
The official way to name objects in space
Recently, the IAU approved new names for 86 stars used by other cultures besides the traditional Arabic, Greek, or Latin names, including four stars that now officially bear names based on their Aboriginal Australian names.
Besides naming, the IAU serves a number of other roles such as science and classification of various objects. The IAU is potentially most recently famous for its 2006 determination that Pluto is not a planet, but a dwarf planet
Every type of object has a different set of rules for naming. For example, asteroids have a set of different rules to comets. For some objects, the discoverer can name it something they'd like. Asteroid 5691 Fredwatson is named after the famous Australian astronomer Fred Watson, and discovered by his friend, the Scottish-born Australian astronomer Robert McNaught.
An object like a comet can be named after the person who discovered it, as is the case of Comet McNaught – this time named after McNaught himself. If that person finds multiple comets, all must have that name so there are more than 50 Comet McNaughts!
Sometimes, an object is important enough that the public are given their say. Discoverers can open up the name to a vote, such as 2014 MU 69 in Kuiper Belt, the next target for the New Horizon's probe.
Official star names
Even stars have a way of officially being named or designated. Some bright stars – ones that have been visible to humans through history – have proper names such as the new ones mentioned above.
But most have alphanumeric names or designations. These numbers, while sounding boring, belong to one of two naming schemes.
Some follow an alphabetic order based on brightness and the constellation they are in. For instance, Betelgeuse is also designated Alpha Orionis, and Sirius is Alpha Canis Majoris.
Alpha is always the brightest star in the constellation followed by the constellation name. So there is a Beta Orionis, Delta Orioinis and so on, and also an Alpha Crux, Beta Crux, etc. in the Southern Cross.
The other method is actually the star's coordinates in space, their space latitude and longitude, or an officially recognized catalogue number. For instance, the oldest known star, SMSS J031300.36-670839.3, has a name based on the initials of the SkyMapper Southern Survey (SMSS), followed by the right ascension (or space longitude) and declination (or space latitude).
This means it is easy for another astronomer to look up and locate an object, without having to look up a database of the object's name, and then find its position via a telescope.
You may not agree with this naming convention. Various astronomers may or may not agree with this. But that's the way it works.
The IAU has this advice for anyone looking to buy a star name:
Remembering your loved ones
I appreciate your desire to remember your loved ones. (I have my own ways that I do it.)
If you are happy to buy a star from one of these companies, and know it won't be recognized but it means something to you, then please go ahead. I completely respect that.
But you can also choose your own star, perhaps one that you looked at together, to think of a person. Then you can go out and observe the beauty of the night sky for free, and remember them.
Read more: Curious Kids: Why do stars twinkle?
A few years ago, we saw in the newspaper the wishes of a young child with a life-threatening illness. One of them was to have a star named after them.
Realising the issues with this, we contacted the family and instead named one of the asteroids that the Siding Spring Survey had discovered. Their name was accepted by the IAU as an official asteroid name in recognition of their achievements despite their young age.
I realize that these options may not be open to everyone, but there are many ways to remember someone, to cherish someone, to love someone.
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