No, the moon phase can't help find your soulmate on TikTok

a hand holding up a phone using TikTok with the full moon in the background
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A new TikTok trend suggests that users can compare the phases of the moon on the day they are born to determine if they are soulmates. 

The trend continues a long association between romance and the moon and is similar in many ways to astrology, which suggests the positions of stars, planets, and the moon can influence a person's character and even determine the course of events.

The trend works by having users slide their respective birth phases of the moon together and if that makes a complete moon then … voila! Soulmates. TikTok users are filming videos of going through this process with their partners and then uploading the results to the social media app. If this all seems sounds too good and way too simple to be true it probably is.

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"The moon phase soulmate trend is old wine in new bottles. It's obviously a twist on astrological sun signs but has removed some of those trappings, maybe to give it a sense of scientific legitimacy," deputy editor of the Skeptical Inquirer science magazine and author Ben Radford, told Space.com via email. "This trend plays into magical thinking and provides some psychological comfort. This has all the hallmarks of a typical TikTok trend, including making a game out of something that is personal and relevant to users — such as a name, home city, face, or birthdate."

Radford added that what is missing from this trend is any actual logical link between the phase of the moon and personality or relationship compatibility. "Why in the world would the phase of the moon have any connection to or effect on relationship compatibility?" he asked.

With no suggested mechanism of how the phase of the moon affects compatibility, let's look a what crunching the numbers suggests about the moon/soulmate test.

This graphic shows the phases of the moon and the orientation of the moon, Earth and sun during each phase.

This graphic shows the phases of the moon and the orientation of the moon, Earth and sun during each phase. (Image credit: NASA/JPL-Caltech/Bill Dunford)

The numbers just don't add up 

According to NASA, the moon only has eight phases: new moon, waxing crescent, first quarter, waxing gibbous, full moon, waning gibbous, third quarter, and waning crescent. That means that if that's the only selection criteria used by the method for soulmate compatibility there should only be eight real categories of people. 

The method only has four possible combinations to make a "whole moon"  —  new moon and full moon, third quarter moon and first quarter moon, waning gibbous and waxing crescent, and waning crescent and waxing gibbous.

With an estimated 8 billion people in the world, that means if one category is only compatible with one other category, each person should have around a billion possible "soulmates." If that's the case, then it's questionable why anyone would have to turn to an app to track down a soulmate in the first place. 

Here's another issue with the moon/soulmate technique: Which side of the moon a person sees illuminated during moon phases depends on which side of Earth they are on. For example, that means that for two people born on opposite sides of the world, two first-quarter moons should be a match and two third-quarter moons should be a match. 

There are many stories on TikToks from loved-up moon soulmates implying that imply trend may appear to be working. This may be because happy couples that happen to get a "matching moon" are more likely to post a successful result, than people unhappy with their result who simply dismiss it and get on with their day.

"If some people return to TikTok to crow or gloat about the perfect soulmate they matched with, keep in mind that it's not a representative sample; we're not hearing from the millions of others for whom it didn't work," Radford explains.

An infographic explaining the phases of the moon. (Image credit: NASA/All About Space Magazine)

The moon soulmate test: Science or pseudoscience? 

Though astrology and astronomy share similar origins and were even united at one point, the two split long ago with astronomy helping forge the tenants of evidence-based science and astrology remaining a faith-based belief system. 

Facing criticism by fans of astrology for defining the zodiac constellations using actual observations, NASA wrote in a Tumblr post: "Astronomy is the scientific study of everything in outer space. Astronomers and other scientists know that stars many light-years away have no effect on the ordinary activities of humans on Earth. Astrology, meanwhile, is something else. It's the belief that the positions of stars and planets can influence human events. It's not considered a science."

In a 1978 paper, Canadian philosopher and cognitive scientist Paul R. Thagard argued that as astrology fails in terms of verifiability and falsifiability and because of its social and historic features, astrology is a pseudoscience. 

"Even if you don't put any stock in astrology, then you might still think this trend has some validity since it's tied to moon phases, which are of course real and scientifically proven," Radford told Space.com.

Radford explained that while this new spin on astrology may seem silly and inconsequential, there is a serious side to the propagation of what is essentially pseudoscience. 

"For many, it may be a silly fad, but there is a darker side if people are sincerely making life decisions based on a TikTok app," he said. "After all, since there's no validity to it, you could be missing out on a great relationship if the moon phases don't match — or even getting into a horrible one if they do."

Radford pointed out that science communicators, educators and journalists can use this trend and others to their advantage as an example to talk about pseudoscience, critical thinking, and the genuinely amazing wonders of the universe.

"Believing that this app can  —  or even just might  —  help find the one perfect mate is a strong incentive for some to continue using it," he concluded. "And for others, it's just a bit of fun to share, until the next fad comes along!"

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Robert Lea
Senior Writer

Robert Lea is a science journalist in the U.K. whose articles have been published in Physics World, New Scientist, Astronomy Magazine, All About Space, Newsweek and ZME Science. He also writes about science communication for Elsevier and the European Journal of Physics. Rob holds a bachelor of science degree in physics and astronomy from the U.K.’s Open University. Follow him on Twitter @sciencef1rst.

  • Jan Steinman
    Which side of the moon a person sees illuminated during moon phases depends on which side of Earth they are on. For example, that means that for two people born on opposite sides of the world, two first-quarter moons should be a match and two third-quarter moons should be a match.

    I'm having a huge problem with this.

    It seems to me that the subtended angle from a person on a line to the moon that is tangent to one side of the Earth, to another person on the opposite tangent would be too tiny to make any difference in the viewed phase at all — let alone fourteen day's worth of moon motion.

    Or am I missing something really obvious?
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  • Unclear Engineer
    Huh???

    "Here's another issue with the moon/soulmate technique: Which side of the moon a person sees illuminated during moon phases depends on which side of Earth they are on. For example, that means that for two people born on opposite sides of the world, two first-quarter moons should be a match and two third-quarter moons should be a match. "

    Really - NO!!! The phases of the moon look the same to everybody on Earth. The only differences is at what time of day/night on the Earth a person views the Moon. Yes, a moon that is rising in the East will look like it is cupped upward (and to one side) and look like it is cupped downward (and to the other side) when looked at at moonsetin the West - to anybody who looks at it from the Earth.

    The person who wrote this should be assigned to stand outside for a month and take photos of every moonrise and moonset, then write at retraction.
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  • RobLea
    Unclear Engineer said:
    Huh???

    "Here's another issue with the moon/soulmate technique: Which side of the moon a person sees illuminated during moon phases depends on which side of Earth they are on. For example, that means that for two people born on opposite sides of the world, two first-quarter moons should be a match and two third-quarter moons should be a match. "

    Really - NO!!! The phases of the moon look the same to everybody on Earth. The only differences is at what time of day/night on the Earth a person views the Moon. Yes, a moon that is rising in the East will look like it is cupped upward (and to one side) and look like it is cupped downward (and to the other side) when looked at moonsetin the West - to anybody who looks at it from the Earth.

    The person who wrote this should be assigned to stand outside for a month and take photos of every moonrise and moonset, then write at retraction.

    I should have been clearer Unclear Engineer! By the other side of Earth, I'm referring to the northern and southern hemispheres. Obviously, during the first and last quarter moon phases, observers in different hemispheres see different sides of the lunar face illuminated as the illumination proceeds from different sides during the lunar month.

    So for the first quarter moon, northern hemisphere watchers see the right side illuminated, and southern hemisphere watchers, see the left side illuminated! I could have added that near the equator the moon's bottom half or top half is illuminated so that's another difference!

    You can check this on Tuesday,when the moon is at third quarter, Snap a pic in the northern hemisphere and get a pal in the southern hemisphere to do the same. You'll see opposite sides of the moon illuminated.

    As for sitting out and photographing the moon phases, I'm up for it. My only conditions, a warm coat and a ticket to New Zealand to catch the moon phases from the southern hemisphere next winter!

    Best,

    Rob
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  • RobLea
    Hey Jan,

    Check out my explanation to Unclear Engineer below. Should have specified different sides means Northern and Southern Hemisphere... Totally my bad.

    Best,

    Rob
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  • Unclear Engineer
    I see your problem: You are verbally equating changes in the viewers' perspectives as differences in "the side of the Moon".

    A more realistic statement is that: People viewing the Moon from the Earth's South Pole see the same view of the Moon as people viewing it from Earth's North Pole, but each would interpret the other's view as "upside down", because the viewers themselves have defined "down" as 180 degrees different.
    So, photographs taken by those two viewers and rotated by how ever many degrees are needed to make both "downs" coincide with the local "down" anywhere would appear to show opposite orientations of the same side of the Moon, thus appearing to make a complete circle in the combined photo that matches the local horizantals instead of the moom images. Of course, that would be obvious if the pictures had any detail of the actual Moon surface.

    A similar argument can be made for two observers on different sides of the Earth at the Equator, but only if one is taking the picture at local moonrise and the other at local moon set. If they both do it at their local rise or set times, the pictures will have the same orientation of the illuminated cusps of the Moon image with respect to their local horizons.

    But, I guess that you are thinking the confusing wording is OK content for an article about a mumbo-jumbo subject. The problem with that here is that this particular venue is supposed to be as firmly based on actual science as we can make it. Yes, the people who believe in the mumbo jumbo subject would speak like the article's text, but the purpose of the article seemed to be to put that into a more science-astronomy perspective.
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  • RobLea
    Unclear Engineer said:
    I see your problem: You are verbally equating changes in the viewers' perspectives as differences in "the side of the Moon".

    A more realistic statement is that: People viewing the Moon from the Earth's South Pole see the same view of the Moon as people viewing it from Earth's North Pole, but each would interpret the other's view as "upside down", because the viewers themselves have defined "down" as 180 degrees different.
    So, photographs taken by those two viewers and rotated by how ever many degrees are needed to make both "downs" coincide with the local "down" anywhere would appear to show opposite orientations of the same side of the Moon, thus appearing to make a complete circle in the combined photo that matches the local horizantals instead of the moom images. Of course, that would be obvious if the pictures had any detail of the actual Moon surface.

    A similar argument can be made for two observers on different sides of the Earth at the Equator, but only if one is taking the picture at local moonrise and the other at local moon set. If they both do it at their local rise or set times, the pictures will have the same orientation of the illuminated cusps of the Moon image with respect to their local horizons.

    But, I guess that you are thinking the confusing wording is OK content for an article about a mumbo-jumbo subject. The problem with that here is that this particular venue is supposed to be as firmly based on actual science as we can make it. Yes, the people who believe in the mumbo jumbo subject would speak like the article's text, but the purpose of the article seemed to be to put that into a more science-astronomy perspective.

    I guess where we differ is I think it's perfectly acceptable to describe things in terms of perspective and from the perspective of people in different hemispheres different sides of the moon are illuminated at the quarter moons. By your logic to you object to the phase "close approach" when celestial objects are near to each other? That's simply a matter of perspective too most of the time. I mean even saying "upside down" isn't really accurate as there is no up or down in space---so I think "left side" and "right side" is more correct as it implicitly factors perspective in.

    Definitely wanted to phrase this scientific terms, but I'm always awaresome of Space's readers are layman and I think it should be understandable for everyone.

    Awesome feedback and certainly food for thought.

    Thanks!
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